Just a Mom
All my adult life I had been three wonderful words: just a mom. I had been the soccer coach, the cheerleading mom, the baseball team mom. My life was centered around those three wonderful kids and I took my role as their mom seriously. Even following my divorce, I did not do what some women do and get into partying and bringing home stepdads. I was just a mom and I loved it.
I did good. They grew up and all three went off to college or the military. Suddenly, I was alone for the first time in my entire life. I had put them first and never had a relationship after my divorce. Now I sat home at night in front of the television because all my friends were home or out on vacations with their husbands.
One night I decided to buy a bottle of wine. I was able to go to sleep that night without being all depressed about missing my kids. That weekend I bought another bottle and went through it in one night. Soon I was buying more and more bottles of wine and counting the hours till work was over so I could go home to that first glass of wine. Before I knew it, I was skipping the glass part altogether.
Thanksgiving changed things. Inside of two months I had become an alcoholic. When my children came home to visit, I hid the evidence. They could tell I was different but could not put their finger on why, or so I thought. Although I was thrilled to have them home, my body kept pining for that bottle of wine I had hidden in a cooler in my bedroom closet.
They had no sooner left the driveway heading back to their wonderful lives before I ran in and grabbed that bottle and opened it. That week I bought several bottles, drinking a couple per night and making sure I had plenty to get me through the weekend.
Saturday afternoon, my children came home and surprised me. They walked in and found me with my wine and several empty bottles around me. They had seen the empty bottles in the trash can outside the weekend before and had brought a substance abuse counselor with them.
Seeing the worry and love in their eyes, I quickly realized what I was doing. I had been just a mom and they assured me I would always be their mom but now they took the time to come and take care of me. That was four years ago. I am rich beyond compare because my children took the values I taught them and went off in the world to follow their dreams but they also came home and took care of a lady who was just a mom when she did not even realize she needed them to.
I am now completely alcohol free and engaged to a wonderful man at my church. I am happy and healthy and the best part? A part of me will always get to be just a mom to those three wonderful kids.
However, as time went on, my credit card bills showed the truth. I was spending over $200.00 a month on vodka and drinking beer from the time I got off work Friday afternoon to Sunday. I woke up on the weekends needing a cup of coffee in one hand and a beer in the other. I used up my sick days and vacation days within the first two months of school starting.

