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Letting Sally Go

December 24th, 2009

About a year ago I lost the lady I realized, too late, that I loved.  I was an alcoholic who was also addicted to painkillers.  Sally stayed with me through some rough times but I got mean and took it out on her verbally.  One day, when I came home from work, she was gone.

I called her but she would not answer her phone.  I went to see her but her mother said she had moved to another town.  Finally, she answered one night.  She told me that she had loved me, but that she could not spend her life being put down and belittled, for having a stroke while I was the one killing myself by mixing alcohol and drugs.  She asked me not to call her cell phone again.

Drug Addiction Stories   Letting Sally GoI ended up getting help when my brother heard what had happened.  I got clean, got sober and luckily, my job was still there when I got out of rehab.  One day I went downtown to the flea market and I thought I heard a beautiful and familiar voice.  I looked over and sure enough, it was Sally.  She was with another man.

As I walked up to them, she had a worried look in her eyes.  Still, she introduced us and I could tell by the look in his eyes that he knew who I was.  He was a gentleman, though, and did not say anything rude.  I asked Sally how she was doing and she said fine.  She asked how I was and I told her I was doing good and had been clean for about six months.  A look of real happiness washed over her face at that.  She hugged me and said she was glad.

Still, she was walking away with that guy and I was jealous.  I asked how her health had been with her stroke and all.  It was partly out of meanness.  That was when I got the biggest lesson of my life.  The guy she was with took her hand as she said she was doing good and had not had any problems.  Then her boyfriend said “Even if she did, I would be here for her; she’s been the best thing to ever happen to me.”

I realized then that I had hurt Sally with my attitude while on drugs and alcohol but that she had helped me as much as she could till she could not take the abuse any more.  I was clean and sober now, but I had still lost out on love where she was concerned. A girl who had a stroke due to stress had ended up richer and healthier and able to build a life full of energy and love and adventure.  As she walked off with him, I whispered, “Good for you, Sally” and let her go peacefully and with my best wishes.

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Little Brother’s Point of View

December 21st, 2009

I remember the day we got the call.  There had been an explosion.  A couple of my brother’s buddies were killed.  My brother got a couple of pretty serious wounds, including a head injury.  He was being sent to Germany and then home.  We were scared to death but grateful he was alive.

Drug Addiction Stories   Little Brothers Point of ViewWe went to visit him at the hospital.  Thankfully it was summertime and I was out of school. I would be starting my senior year soon.  We stayed at the hospitality house for families.  After about six weeks, they let my brother come home.

He wanted to stay in the Army but his wounds and the head injury made it impossible.  He had never planned on anything except being a soldier and I could tell he felt lost.  He was really irritable at times.  I knew he had been through a lot and that the head injury could also make him feel that way.  However, I started suspecting he was over-doing his prescriptions; even my mom noticed it.

I have always been interested in the medical field.  I plan to be a doctor some day.  I began doing some research and it confirmed my suspicions.  My brother was becoming a prescription drug addict.  Maybe some of his irritability was from the head injury but not all of it.

My mom and I discussed it, and she too realized he was getting addicted.  We called a helpline and they advised us to set up an intervention.  We were going to have it the next day but my mom jumped the gun a little that morning.  My brother had taken the rest of his prescription and was trying to get on the computer to see if he could get some more prescribed.

My mom told him not to throw his life away; that he had survived and there was a good reason for it.  He went into a rage and flew up from the computer and hit her.  It took everything I had as I got between them not to hit him for that but I did not want to make matters worse.  I drew him aside and told him to never touch her again.  I told him I loved him and I wanted my big brother back, not this person I saw before me.

We stood there eye to eye just as the doorbell rang.  I told him it was someone who was going to get help for him and that we were all in this together.  We were family.  He quietly nodded okay and I helped him to the living room where the intervention counsellor sat with our mother.

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I Will Beat Drug Addiction

December 17th, 2009

I wake up and the house is quiet.  I walk out to the kitchen and my wife is sitting there with my brother, two of our closest friends, and another man.  My wife walks up to me, puts her arm around me and tells me she loves me.  I ask her what everyone is doing there on a Saturday morning.  She tells me it is Monday morning and I have been on a drug addiction high for three days.  I look at my brother and he nods.

The man I do not know introduces himself as a professional counsellor.  My protest goes quiet as I see the tears in my wife’s eyes, along with the bruise that has almost healed from a week earlier on her arm.  I ask where the children are and my brother tells me his wife has them at their house.  They are only 3 and 5.

Drug Addiction Stories   I Will Beat Drug Addiction

I have had a problem since I fell down a flight of stairs outside a friend’s apartment complex six months earlier.  The prescription I was given helped a little but I needed more until finally, through a neighbour down the street, I was able to get some harder stuff that I got addicted to.

I know it has been spiralling out of control.  I know my behavior and mood swings have been up and down like a roller coaster and that last week when my wife told me enough was enough and refused to give me the money to get another bag, I hit her and it was the last straw.  In truth, every morning I expected to wake up to an empty house.

The counsellor asked if I had any questions.  I said yes, and asked about the type of center it was, would anyone know, would our insurance cover it, how successful was it.  I told him I will beat this drug addiction.  He said I had a good attitude about it and certainly a good support system and he then went on to say that not only would I have one in the residential program but that my wife and brother would as well.

I hung my head then. I had really stretched the limits of what family should do yet here they were, ready to help, and stand beside me.  I will beat drug addiction, for my two little boys, my wife, my brother, and for myself.

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