Drug Addiction Stories & Info

Hey,

I just wanted to write a brief note on the importance of being an honest son that does not lie to their parents.

Growing up I was always very honest with my parents and had absolutely no reason to lie to them at all.  However this all changed when I started using drugs.  I began becoming quite manipulative and deceitful thinking in my own clouded mind that I could fool them with lie after lie almost thinking that I must have been outsmarting them but in reality I was only fooling myself.

As my using escalated so did level of dishonesty to the point where I was no longer trusted whatsoever.  I began to feel like an outsider, an outcast thinking that I could count on my friends more than them.  How wrong I was.  When trouble would arise and you would think that your ‘friends’ would come running to your side all of a sudden, you could look to left then the right and no one was there, no one for you to count on.  So what’s the next logical step….go to your parents.  The problem there is that you’ve lied to them so much that they question whether or not you are being truthful because you’ve hurt them so many times.  However, at the end of the day, they will always be there for you,  so to grant them your honesty really isn’t asking for all that much, don’t you think.  You owe it to them.

My father once said to me when I used to get into trouble,

You use the term ‘friends’ too loosely.  You should consider yourself extremely lucky if you could count your ‘friends’ on one hand.  One day you will understand what I mean.  Just remember this, your mother and I are the best friends that you’ve got and don’t you forget it.”

Now, with a clear and unclouded mind, the only thing I can now say is, Dad………..I understand.

Sincerely,

JD

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When you are sixteen, you think fairy tales come true. You fall in love and you think he is the one meant for you. It is hard to comprehend that he would lie to you. When he gets drunk and asks you to drive his corvette, you get excited. He is 27 and he thinks you are the greatest thing in the world or so he says. 

Your family feels differently. Your mother is doing everything she can to raise you and your brother singlehandedly and tells him to stay \away from you. But you sneak out at night to see him. When he is drunk, he calls you up and you are right there. You bail on your own prom because he wants to see you. He insists that you drink with him when the two of you are alone even though you do not like it very well.

It is not until you are stopped one night because you forgot to turn on your signal light that you realize he is just using you as his chauffeur while he is drinking. It is not until you end up pregnant and he seems shocked that you realize he was never into you for who you really were. It was always just about the drinking.

Years later, as you raise that child by yourself and see to it that he has everything possible so that he does not feel like he is missing out by having an absent father, you run into the guy you were so into at sixteen and seventeen. You are 35 and you are at a restaurant with your fiance, your son and his friends for his high school graduation. He has aged and is with a woman as wide as she is tall. He is still drinking and although the math tells you he is only 46, he could so easily pass for close to 60.

He recognizes you. He sees in the gorgeous young man on one side of you the man he used to be. He stares at you all through the meal. He gets almost belligerently drunk while you and your loved ones are enjoying a special occasion. Then the entire restaurant goes quiet as your fiance stands. He has a set of keys that he hands to your son and tells him that they belong to a very nice mustang out in the parking lot. Your son stands up and hugs him and says “I know your wedding is not until next week but can I go ahead and call you Dad now?” Your fiance is pleased as he has been in both of your lives for over three years.

As you do a family hug with your son and your fiance, you look over at the man who used you when you were a teenager. He is beet red and demanding another drink as his wife looks on mortified. He stares at you and has a question in his eyes. You shake your head no. There is no reason to talk to him. You already have everything in life you could possibly desire and a drunk from the past is not on the list.

It’s your graduation day, too, as you shut the door on the past. As he sees the gift he missed out on in the young man that looks like what he used to be, you know that the future looks bright for you, your fiance and especially your child.