To all other fathers out there, I lost 5 years of valuable time with my son, that I can never get back. Be a good father to your kids, because they grow up so fast, and you can never get that time back. Spend as much time, and put in as much effort as you possibly can. Drugs almost cost me my son for good, he did not want to see me, or talk to me. It is a terrible feeling. I have worked hard to rebuild his trust. Do whatever you have to do to get clean and be a good father to your children. There is no better feeling than having your childrens respect and adoration.
Also : I T.M. used to use coke, and ignore my son. I would do coke daily and not communicate with my son. I missed birthdays, and christmasses, and his soccer and sports events. I am now drug free and in communication with my son. I help him as much as I can. I am rebuilding his trust in me. It feels great to get to know my son, and be a part of his life.
I T.M. used to lie and cheat my parents. I would ignore their phone calls and miss Christmasses, birthdays, and family gatherings because I was doing drugs. I am now in good communication with my parents. I am now a drug-free, responsible son. My parents are happy to have their son back, and I am happy to be a valuable, contributing son.
I Pablo Davalos am a good father because I am an honest father who doesn’t do drugs,is an ethical person who doesnt lie to his kids and one who instills good family values to his children. This behavior is important in order to have a trusting and loving family who are strong and have good family values and ethical behaviors. I am my children’s role model.
I just wanted to write a brief note on the importance of being an honest son that does not lie to their parents.
Growing up I was always very honest with my parents and had absolutely no reason to lie to them at all. However this all changed when I started using drugs. I began becoming quite manipulative and deceitful thinking in my own clouded mind that I could fool them with lie after lie almost thinking that I must have been outsmarting them but in reality I was only fooling myself.
As my using escalated so did level of dishonesty to the point where I was no longer trusted whatsoever. I began to feel like an outsider, an outcast thinking that I could count on my friends more than them. How wrong I was. When trouble would arise and you would think that your ‘friends’ would come running to your side all of a sudden, you could look to left then the right and no one was there, no one for you to count on. So what’s the next logical step….go to your parents. The problem there is that you’ve lied to them so much that they question whether or not you are being truthful because you’ve hurt them so many times. However, at the end of the day, they will always be there for you, so to grant them your honesty really isn’t asking for all that much, don’t you think. You owe it to them.
My father once said to me when I used to get into trouble,
You use the term ‘friends’ too loosely. You should consider yourself extremely lucky if you could count your ‘friends’ on one hand. One day you will understand what I mean. Just remember this, your mother and I are the best friends that you’ve got and don’t you forget it.”
Now, with a clear and unclouded mind, the only thing I can now say is, Dad………..I understand.
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